Be Brave
We are constantly told, be brave! So why is it so hard to be brave…. because it is only the first step. You need to be brave to harness courage (to reach within yourself and find it), and it takes courage to be vulnerable! Why on earth would you want to be vulnerable…. because this is the risk we take when we change, adjust, evolve and grow.
“Are you the one who puts barriers infront of your own braveness?”
Brene Brown inspired me in the back of her books when she addressed notes to the ‘research nerds’ and encouraged readers to be brave. The problem is, we often don’t know how to be brave or what to do differently, and this is why we become stuck. We question “what if I fail?” We worry “what if it is not good enough” and “what if people judge and decide they do not like me?’ These are our own barriers to our own ‘braveness’.
“Do not step outside of your comfort zone, instead pull stuff in.”
To be brave we need to take small achievable steps - expand your comfort zone and make it bulge with new resources (rather than step outside your comfort zone, cause that’s uncomfortable and scary). When you pull resources in, you also get to decide if you push it back out again - much more empowering! We need to call in people we trust who will back us when the above questions become too loud (and there will be times when you stack the barriers). We need to start to believe in ourselves and this might be the place we start, by building the faith in yourself.
During my life, I could not have participated in white water kayaking or mountaineering in NZ without learning new skills and trusting my trainers. I could not have delivered two babies without trusting my Doctors and learning from the mother mentors around me. I could not have started a business without believing in myself and problem solving my way around or over the very barriers I put in front of me in the first place.
So be brave with me, trust me to help you dig down deep and find the courage you already have. Let’s spend time to set clear achievable goals to help you take each step toward your new you and exciting adventures.
